MaryLu Tyndall posts at Colonial Quills group blog and on MaryLu's website.
This past week we have interviewed ML and had reviews of her pirate trilogy which recently re-released!
MaryLu shared about abandonment as an issue for herself and as faced by her heroine, Charlisse, in these books.
Here is a really deep post on abandonment: link
My thoughts -
God will never abandon nor leave you. He will never forsake you. Once a Christian gets that in their head a lot of those issues of feeling alone vanish. And I don't trust "Feelings" nor should you as Joyce Meyer reminds us. When you rely upon the Word you can say to the feeling - "I KNOW what God's Word says, and I am never abandoned by my Father for His Word proclaims that truth."
But we live on earth. We want examples of a godly father. For a married person that, truthfully, often translates into who your husband becomes as a father. Therefor a woman needs to choose her Christian husband carefully, as God directs her path, so she can see in her own life, in her own home, what a good father looks like. That isn't to say that her choice will be perfect. We all have free will and who knows what that Christian husband might choose to do. A spouse with abandonment issues needs to be careful not to react when their husband or wife needs extra emotional space, though. Be mindful of your own history so you can deal with it and not dump it on your partner.
There is a void left in your heart, as a child or teen, when a parent leaves, whether through death, abandonment, or for some other reason such as long-term illness or military. The Enemy will tell you that something is needed to fill that void. Yes, that would be God. But Satan will offer up many other alternatives that are meant to destroy not build you up as your Father would. Alcoholism, as addressed in MaryLu's books, is a common example. There are many recovery groups, such as Alcoholics Anonymous, all over the country, willing to help people turn from a bottle of alcohol as their god to the their higher power, or God for we Christians.
What about you today? Who can you guide toward God and away from the earthly thing they have been using to salve their wounds?