tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8713519582170578996.post7846334279302069069..comments2023-10-21T07:52:07.859-04:00Comments on Overcoming With God: The Tyranny of the Word "Just" Carrie Fancett Pagelshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09096954464239963966noreply@blogger.comBlogger51125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8713519582170578996.post-79504870820487852482018-02-24T13:49:36.210-05:002018-02-24T13:49:36.210-05:00Hi Susan P! Congrats! You're the winner of my ...Hi Susan P! Congrats! You're the winner of my box of books giveaway this week on Overcoming with God blog! Blessings!<br />Carrie Fancett Pagelshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09096954464239963966noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8713519582170578996.post-78635810240433773422018-02-24T11:13:43.165-05:002018-02-24T11:13:43.165-05:00Hi Lori! Although some people think "if you j...Hi Lori! Although some people think "if you just" or "just do" brings clarity, often it sends a condescending message. I was at lunch recently with someone who made one of those "if you just do this then" statements and I didn't say anything because most things in life are not that easy. And while technically something might be true, the doing of the thing may be too complicated to think you can dismiss all other considerations! Blessings!Carrie Fancett Pagelshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09096954464239963966noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8713519582170578996.post-59735056164994810402018-02-24T11:11:06.865-05:002018-02-24T11:11:06.865-05:00So much of what we say is from our own perspective...So much of what we say is from our own perspective, of course, but when we're trying to help others we have to consider what we're saying to them and how it is perceived. Yesterday I had another "do this and just will happen" type of scenario again! And even after I said to the person that in all likelihood given the difficulty we just had with this technical issue that it wouldn't "just happen". Ack! Blessings!Carrie Fancett Pagelshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09096954464239963966noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8713519582170578996.post-71430434630923156242018-02-24T11:08:38.977-05:002018-02-24T11:08:38.977-05:00The usage or misusage of the word as I indicated i...The usage or misusage of the word as I indicated in my post is what I'm referring to, Anne, not to the context you give. Carrie Fancett Pagelshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09096954464239963966noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8713519582170578996.post-86897819766790727232018-02-23T18:05:10.910-05:002018-02-23T18:05:10.910-05:00Oops! I forgot to put my email: nj(dot)bossman(a...Oops! I forgot to put my email: nj(dot)bossman(at)gmail(dot)comAlison Bosshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04302948293605454971noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8713519582170578996.post-41393973818090069182018-02-22T19:34:06.491-05:002018-02-22T19:34:06.491-05:00I feel your pain. I am married to a highly techie ...I feel your pain. I am married to a highly techie person and he has always used this word. He has never meant it in a bad way, but sometimes it was taken that way, whether justified or not. Until our son got into high school and one day had a talk with my husband about it all. Needless to say my husband was flabbergasted. But he stopped using this word and using other words that were more "build you up words". what a difference this change has made in our relationship. I thank my son so much. He is such an insightful young man. And now he can share it with his wife of two years. Thank you for this great post.<br />quilting dash lady at Comcast dot netLorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04378468202427454948noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8713519582170578996.post-23519886003927959092018-02-22T17:17:08.980-05:002018-02-22T17:17:08.980-05:00Thanks for the thought-provoking post, Carrie. It&...Thanks for the thought-provoking post, Carrie. It's a great reminder to be thoughtful of our words, how they affect others, and the consequences of what we say. ~Alison BossAlison Bosshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04302948293605454971noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8713519582170578996.post-49341191584817400942018-02-21T16:58:43.119-05:002018-02-21T16:58:43.119-05:00I don't have a problem with the word JUST. It ...I don't have a problem with the word JUST. It makes me think of doing what is right or JUST, of being JUSTified, always something to do with 'law'. Anne Paynehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16326796364748948854noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8713519582170578996.post-12825771329527287792018-02-21T16:55:59.166-05:002018-02-21T16:55:59.166-05:00You are correct, Trixi. It is titled Just a Closer...You are correct, Trixi. It is titled Just a Closer Walk with Thee. I love this song so I looked it up in my hymnal. :-)Anne Paynehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16326796364748948854noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8713519582170578996.post-28461505095312653392018-02-21T14:57:18.536-05:002018-02-21T14:57:18.536-05:00Hmmm...maybe it is entitled A Closer Walk with The...Hmmm...maybe it is entitled A Closer Walk with Thee, I've always heard it with "Just" in front of it. 😊 The chorus is this though (and I love it)<br /><br />"Just a closer walk with Thee,<br />Grant it, Jesus, is my plea,<br />Daily walking close to Thee,<br />Let it be, dear Lord, let it be. "<br /><br />Let that be our prayer daily!Trixi https://www.blogger.com/profile/03116805265841796307noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8713519582170578996.post-27567755472308127722018-02-21T14:47:42.080-05:002018-02-21T14:47:42.080-05:00Oh, my, Anne! I'm guilty of the same thing! No...Oh, my, Anne! I'm guilty of the same thing! Now if I could just...<br />It's so imbedded in our thoughts and culture, hard to break it. I am going to try!<br />Blessings~Robbyehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17632554242806023979noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8713519582170578996.post-71966090669818535662018-02-21T14:06:41.133-05:002018-02-21T14:06:41.133-05:00Hi Trixi! I have never heard of this song being en...Hi Trixi! I have never heard of this song being entitled with Just in it. I've only heard it as "A Closer Walk With Thee." I have a feeling it might be people of my generation who get offended. On the other hand, I remember being a teenager and the parental "Just..." being so annoying because the "just" didn't get it!Carrie Fancett Pagelshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09096954464239963966noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8713519582170578996.post-90238078884980932952018-02-21T14:03:31.702-05:002018-02-21T14:03:31.702-05:00Yes, Jan, it seems the phrase "If you just&qu...Yes, Jan, it seems the phrase "If you just" implies something is easy. This morning I was told a location was "Just two miles away." I told my son, "Just, huh? Two miles to someplace we have never been, in morning rush hour traffic, to a location that isn't even showing on my GPS or on iPhone mapping." Carrie Fancett Pagelshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09096954464239963966noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8713519582170578996.post-82736207892282120032018-02-21T00:31:18.267-05:002018-02-21T00:31:18.267-05:00What about the hymn "Just a Closer Walk With ...What about the hymn "Just a Closer Walk With Thee?"? That's a positive spin to the word just ;-) <br /><br />I've honestly never thought of the word "just" and how much it's used negatively in our world today. I will try to be more aware of it in my own speech as to not offend someone. <br /><br />teamob4 (at) gmail (dot) comTrixi https://www.blogger.com/profile/03116805265841796307noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8713519582170578996.post-60800410364555419712018-02-19T20:07:34.974-05:002018-02-19T20:07:34.974-05:00I agree that it is tough to hear it you would just...I agree that it is tough to hear it you would just.... It is usually said by someone who thinks whatever it is is easy to them. Not easy to me. My hubby was taught about tools and vehicles by his grandfather. Then he learned about appliance repair. He sometimes would get frustrated with me because I didn't know what he did. fishingjanATaolDOTcomJan Hhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17706522878268677412noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8713519582170578996.post-45675613283915049742018-02-19T16:35:43.853-05:002018-02-19T16:35:43.853-05:00Using that pause can also work when we return it a...Using that pause can also work when we return it after hearing "just" -- such as in a long pause before you say, "Let me make sure I understand you, if I would JUST do this thing, that I DON'T know how to do, then my problems would be taken care of." ACK!!! Hugs!Carrie Fancett Pagelshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09096954464239963966noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8713519582170578996.post-89385312362581313822018-02-19T16:34:14.508-05:002018-02-19T16:34:14.508-05:00Hi Caryl! We had hurricanes here every couple of y...Hi Caryl! We had hurricanes here every couple of years and it has slowed down some. I know you could relate to something saying, "Oh, it was JUST a Level 1 Hurricane" when, given a bunch of conditions, a Level 1 can cause as devastating results as a level 3. Hugs!Carrie Fancett Pagelshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09096954464239963966noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8713519582170578996.post-76578967971108095502018-02-19T16:32:20.872-05:002018-02-19T16:32:20.872-05:00Hi Susan! Yes, it's like you're supposed t...Hi Susan! Yes, it's like you're supposed to know this thing. And if you did, you'd not be asking! Thanks for sharing!Carrie Fancett Pagelshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09096954464239963966noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8713519582170578996.post-25136739782611267832018-02-19T16:31:06.177-05:002018-02-19T16:31:06.177-05:00Haha Janet! That's good you haven't had re...Haha Janet! That's good you haven't had reason to pay attention to this word!Carrie Fancett Pagelshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09096954464239963966noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8713519582170578996.post-65338105920316469032018-02-19T11:23:15.990-05:002018-02-19T11:23:15.990-05:00Thanks for the reminder, Carrie. It is so importan...Thanks for the reminder, Carrie. It is so important that we practice the 'pause' before we speak. I have been the recipient of many of the same 'just' comments mentioned above. Now I need to be aware of what I am saying. It really is difficult to not use the word when speaking of the weather here in Minnesota.....lol <br />bettimace at gmail dot comBettihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14645337615635154815noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8713519582170578996.post-1852537287565638412018-02-19T09:19:12.915-05:002018-02-19T09:19:12.915-05:00Great post, Carrie! I love your insight. We must b...Great post, Carrie! I love your insight. We must be careful with our words.<br /><br />psalm103and138atgmaildotcomCaryl Kanehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03446868830897710358noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8713519582170578996.post-24874220179710079712018-02-19T09:17:14.151-05:002018-02-19T09:17:14.151-05:00I actually have always been annoyed with "jus...I actually have always been annoyed with "just do..." saying, as you said when someone says it and it sounds like you should have figured it out already. POV is exactly right. I think we all forget we all have different talents or abilities. I love that you brought it to light! Great post. :)<br />lattebooksAThotmailDOTcomSusan Phttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00885508869904521374noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8713519582170578996.post-20624635018890084062018-02-19T06:24:26.957-05:002018-02-19T06:24:26.957-05:00I "just" never gave it a thought, seriou...I "just" never gave it a thought, seriously, I really haven't. I will be aware of this word more so, now that you pointed it out.<br />Janet E.<br />von1janet(at)gmail(dot)comLibrary Ladyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04453047929043510049noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8713519582170578996.post-42757830675456286502018-02-18T21:47:27.847-05:002018-02-18T21:47:27.847-05:00Hi Jenny! That is so insensitive for someone to co...Hi Jenny! That is so insensitive for someone to comment "can't you just walk already" when of course, someone who has had foot surgery would LOVE to be able to resume all normal tasks with ease again! Praying for you, too! Blessings!Carrie Fancett Pagelshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09096954464239963966noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8713519582170578996.post-446022858908701442018-02-18T21:46:04.709-05:002018-02-18T21:46:04.709-05:00All of those phrases imply condescension, Mary, on...All of those phrases imply condescension, Mary, on some level. I've gotten more sensitive to the overuse of this word during the times when I haven't been able to walk. Almost nothing is "just" when every step is a problem! Blessings!Carrie Fancett Pagelshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09096954464239963966noreply@blogger.com